do not blame yourself

i guess i wrote this entry becoz i realised a lot of pple blame a lot on themselves once they find something goes wrong... not many people get out of such a state when they are in it, i am like that at times.
sometimes caused by traumatic experiences, unhealthy family background or even influences from peers. unconsciously, it seems to be the usual way of getting comfort from themselves.
it seems tat a person is humble or even very 'wei da', but actually it stems from low self-esteem.....the person who suffers from such usu. feel even worse if a friend tries to talk him/her out of it. Perhaps only through continuous care and loving concern from genuine friends that he/she will get out of it. Patience needed.....
i think for myself, it is becoz of mentors and He, my God who sets me free from the anxiety and pleaser-mode. The low self-awarded, so-called 'esteem' is defeated.